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Whether this is a relationship between partners or friends or even between the parents and children, there is one interesting behaviour and pattern of going from love into hate.
But I am not talking here about the common fights between the partners, lovers or friends. I want to talk here about something very specific.
Thus let's look at the example because this is the easy way to explain things.
Thus we have 2 persons who fall in love and everything is perfect and there are "no limits" for them. But sometime in the future they end up either in the court trying to get as much of the money for themselves from the wealth of that hey have accumulated or they secretly plan to hurt or even kill their partner.
How is this all possible ?
Within this there are 2 common scenarios.
1. These 2 persons have allowed the accumulation of problems because they have not resolved them efficiently together and this brings a situation when they simply cannot stand the presence of their partner which they used to love so much in the beginning of their relationship. Within this both of the partners have got lost and they don't see that they are personally responsible for all the problems and instead of taking the responsibility they simply blame each other and they are waiting for their partner to change the situation and they don't do anything themselves. Of course this kind of attitude doesn't bring anything else but more problems and the whole mountain grows bigger and bigger until one day they cannot stand even the presence of each other and they end up in the court fighting each other to get the most for themselves and in that moment for them it is not important that their partner is really in difficult situation.
2. In regards to the love and hate pattern there is also another scenario. This is happening when one of the partners starts to open his/her eyes and starts to make the real change within. What I mean here is that one of the partners starts to see the ego and the polarity constructs of the mind within the relationship and s/he stops participating in it and s/he starts to change it. And because the other partner is still blind and thus s/he wants to continue to exist as this mind construct thus this change of her/his partner is irritating. S/he sees the current state ( mind construct ) as something normal and thus the change of her/his partner seems completely without sense. Thus s/he is trying to convince his/her partner to try to come back to be normal. But obviously her/his partner starts to see the illusion of the current state which is built on ego and s/he doesn't want to go back there. And here we have a period of time when one of the partners wants to convince the other one to return to the normal and the other one tries to show that the normal state is an illusion. Eventually this leads to a situation when the partner who doesn't want to change turns with hate and fury on his/her partner because s/he is trying to destroy their illusion of normality. Apart from it this second partner is mirroring to the first partner the reality which the first partner doesn't want to accept in that moment and thus to supress it s/he will fight the second partner with fury trying to literally destroy him/her. And thus we have again a relationship which turns from love into hate.